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I applaud all college students who are satisfied with who they are and what they are doing with their lives – kudos to you. To all complainers, “Debbie-downers” and self-described failures: stop whining, and do something about it.
I once knew this girl – I’ll call her Jill – who was constantly looking to anyone and everyone to contradict her all-consuming insecurities and self-doubts.
She would say things like, “I’m getting fat,” “I’m failing algebra,” “I don’t have any money” and “I never have a boyfriend.”
I suppose typical and kind responses would be along the lines of, “Of course not! You’re wonderful, brilliant and beautiful just the way you are . I’ll pay for lunch!”
My advice for Jill: Go to the gym, pick up a textbook and stop buying $6 White Chocolate Mocha Frappuccinos at Starbucks every afternoon. If you do all this, you won’t have time for a boyfriend.
Honestly, how many ego-boosting conversations does a person need before he or she is content? I think it can go on forever. Putting yourself down and relentlessly fishing for compliments isn’t going to fix your insecurities.
I don’t want to come across as a coldhearted, unsympathetic girl on a soapbox – I can definitely sympathize with almost anyone. It’s the blatant disregard for common sense that has my knickers in a twist. So I have some advice:
If you are unhappy with your weight, start working out and refrain from drinking diet soda with a cheese pizza for lunch. It’s fine once in a while, but if you’re truly unhappy with your outward appearance, then stop eating like you have the metabolism of a nine-year-old.
We also have a brand-new $25-million recreation facility on campus for you to utilize – you’re paying for it, so jump on a treadmill. Your weight problem isn’t going to be fixed by whining to your friend over a shared freight of french fries.
If you’re failing school, head to the library. Yes, some are naturally blessed with “the gift,” and we’re all envious of them. Yet, you’re unhappy with your grades. Try getting a tutor, form study groups, bring a book to the gym – anything. Sitting around and complaining won’t bring your C to an A.
Everyone knows someone who incessantly complains about his or her finances. I’m not a financial guru or anything, but I can pick up when a person’s debt is his or her own fault. If you’re low on cash, think before you spend. Abstain from purchasing the newest Grand Theft Auto PS3 game or that cute new Coach purse. Have a credit card? Unless mom and dad are footing the bill, I’d hold off on swiping it at your next mall visit. Think before you spend, and don’t splurge.
If you don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, and you classify yourself as a self-loather, you’re the problem. Stop raining on everyone’s parade. If you’re happy and content with yourself, I’m sure someone will date you.
If a perpetual self-loather has you by the horns, throw back! Put an end to the pity parties and move the relationship to a more mutually beneficial one.
To all self-loathers: I guarantee your success and hard work towards bettering yourself will build your ego. Don’t stay unhappy and rely on others to change your self perceptions – we’re getting sick of it.
Dana Bulba is a fourth-year journalism major and is annoyed by lazy, idle little loathers.
